Wedding toasts rules and tips

There are only a few rules to follow when you are delivering a toast at a wedding. If you keep them in mind, your toast is sure to be a hit at the wedding.

Make sure you plan your wedding toast. You don’t want to ramble for minutes on end with no direction. Know what you want to say. Know how long you are allowed to speak. Next, know the formalities of toasting. Stand. Hold your glass in your right hand. Do not begin your toast until all of the guests have a glass in front of them. That’s it! Wedding toast rules aren’t difficult at all.

There are a few other rules you might want to keep in mind when preparing your wedding toast as well. Address the newlyweds by name. State your relationship to the couple as well. Traditional wedding toasts are made by the father of the bride to the bride and her new husband or to the couple. At today’s modern weddings, toasts can be made by a close friend or another family member. Stating the relationship within the toast is a polite way to introduce yourself to a room full of strangers without standing up and saying, “Hi, I’m Uncle Bob.”

Some people like to include poems or personal stories in their toasts. Those aren’t necessary, but can add a lot to the toast. Public speaking makes most people nervous. A lot of speeches will include humor to help cut some of the tension you might encounter when you are delivering the speech.

Toastmasters offer classes in giving toasts. If you have an opportunity, spending a few hours with the professionals in this area will serve you well for years to come. Their standard wedding toast is as follows:

Observe, when Mother Earth is dry
She drinks the dropping of the sky,
And then the dewy cordial gives
To every thirsty plant that lives.
The vapors which at evening weep
Are beverage to the swelling deep;
And when the rosy sun appears
He drinks the ocean's misty tears.
The moon too quaffs her paly stream
Of luster from the solar beam.
Then hence with your sober thinking!
Since nature's holy law is drinking,
I'll make the law of Nature mine,
And pledge the Universe in wine.
--Tom Moore

It’s much more personal to write your own wedding toast for the married couple, but we added a few others for you to compare notes with as well.

A Toast from a Father to his Daughter:

A toast to my daughter. She was a gift from God and I will always be grateful to have been given the honor of being her father. May God continue to bless her and her new husband and grant them safety, love, and happiness all the days of their lives.


A Toast from a Groomsmen to the Bride:

I rise to offer a toast to the Bride. May this day be the beginning of a new chapter in a love story that will endure forever, and bring joy and happiness to her and her new husband.
May she always remember and honor the vows she made today and let them be the strong foundation on which their life together will be built.


A few other great toasting resources are:
Great Toasts, Andrew Frothingham

Irish Toasts, Karen Bailey

A Gentleman’s Guide to Toasting, Jack Daniels Distilling Company

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